That’s true, but the person perceived to be “in power” in the relationship (what was called traditionally the breadwinner) is less likely to complain about the situation. I don’t think many working people, women or otherwise, think “I wish I could work at home tidying up the house for no salary and have no income of my own!”
I agree with your point still - once children are in the equation some women might shift towards the traditional view if that means they’d get to stay at home spending time with them.
I don’t think anyone wants to be entirely dependent on someone else’s income, but I do think women are more likely to complain if they’re the breadwinner than men are, because of the same traditionel view. You’ll rarely hear a guy say “we’ve grown apart” if his wife works a dead end job or has a lower education.
“I wish I could work at home tidying up the house for no salary and have no income of my own!”
As a fun aside: both my wife and I would both love to do this! Unfortunately it’s just too tough financially in the modern world, so it’s never a really serious discussion.
Plus we would have to flip a coin or something to decide who has to be the breadwinner.
We don’t really have a relationship that revolves around power-roles though, so it’s a bit of a different discussion.
That’s true, but the person perceived to be “in power” in the relationship (what was called traditionally the breadwinner) is less likely to complain about the situation. I don’t think many working people, women or otherwise, think “I wish I could work at home tidying up the house for no salary and have no income of my own!”
I agree with your point still - once children are in the equation some women might shift towards the traditional view if that means they’d get to stay at home spending time with them.
I don’t think anyone wants to be entirely dependent on someone else’s income, but I do think women are more likely to complain if they’re the breadwinner than men are, because of the same traditionel view. You’ll rarely hear a guy say “we’ve grown apart” if his wife works a dead end job or has a lower education.
As a fun aside: both my wife and I would both love to do this! Unfortunately it’s just too tough financially in the modern world, so it’s never a really serious discussion.
Plus we would have to flip a coin or something to decide who has to be the breadwinner.
We don’t really have a relationship that revolves around power-roles though, so it’s a bit of a different discussion.