• ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    22
    arrow-down
    6
    ·
    1 month ago

    What is a dad-mom? A single father, stay at home dad, or what? Wouldn’t both instances be celebrated on Father’s Day?

    • But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      8
      ·
      1 month ago

      Yes, dad mom is a derogatory way of essentially saying that men who cook, clean and take care of their babies are moms/women. It’s an extension of the view that men aren’t supposed to do that stuff so when they do, they’re behaving like women.

      It’s the same toxic reason why people say to dads “oh you’re baby sitting?” No that’s literally my child, you can’t babysit your own kids

      • Deconceptualist@lemm.ee
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        edit-2
        1 month ago

        I didn’t interpret it as derogatory or toxic here though. This is intended to be wholesome so I took it to mean “Dads who provide caregiving in any multitude of ways that some might consider a traditional mother’s role”. So if we assume that and no extra baggage, I think that’s worth celebrating too.

        Of course with the cultural baggage, you would be right. I just don’t think that was implied here.

    • phdepressed@sh.itjust.works
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      1 month ago

      Single parents pull double duty generally. So the kids sometimes celebrate them twice. I’m curious about how same sex couples with children do it are they both celebrated on one day or does one get father’s day and the other mothers day?

    • thedarkfly@feddit.nl
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      1 month ago

      Maybe a gay couple that adopted? One is celebrated on Mothers’ day and the other one on Fathers’ day.

    • LilB0kChoy@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      1 month ago

      The dad mom made me think of the Mother’s Day episode of Modern Family with Cam and Mitch where Cam was getting the celebration on Mother’s Day.

      • ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        1 month ago

        Hahaha! That’s a great example. I have a lesbian couple friend that does it the same way. Their wedding also one wore a tux and one a dress. Depends on the couple and people though