• ShunkW@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    I was way too old when I learned that you should ask if someone wants advice or just wants to vent. “Are we fixing or bitching?” is what I ask my best friend nowadays and it’s made us less likely to butt heads when one of us just wants to talk shit to get it out.

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        11 months ago

        I always ask “is this a rant or are you asking for a solution?” Same question but worded in a way that isn’t going to cause problems.

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          11 months ago

          Yeah I guess it depends on the person you’re talking to. Most people I’ve asked the question will usually laugh and say, “we’re bitching right now.”

          I respond with, “bitch away.”