I have an old weather-nerd friend in real life who doesn’t take the hint when I don’t want to hear what the weather was like in Melbourne Christmas 1983 at 9am, changing dramatically by 11:47am etc etc
Then when I explicitly tell him to “stop, I am not interested” he comes back with his usual response of “I let you talk when I am not interested”.
Me: So tell me at the time, not keeping it up your sleeve as a defence card to play
Him: Oh I never tell people to stop. That would be rude
Me: Well that’s your problem not mine. Besides I only do it to get you to advance your technical skills, like encouraging you to click the microphone button on your phone to activate voice-to-text because you complain about typing being too difficult.
TL:DR Even dear friends can be annoyingly boring sometimes.
A modern problem is lag in crappy quality phone connections. It makes feedback and interjections difficult. Real life with this friend is much smoother.
I definitely would have ditched him when younger (close to sixty now). Putting up with a lot more now if someone is otherwise honorable, loyal, honest.
People my age run out of friends if they ditch so easily. Indeed that explains many older people being lonely. New friends are harder to come by with age so they should learn more tolerance and social strategy (like my trying to get my friend to text me more than phone me).
I have an old weather-nerd friend in real life who doesn’t take the hint when I don’t want to hear what the weather was like in Melbourne Christmas 1983 at 9am, changing dramatically by 11:47am etc etc
Then when I explicitly tell him to “stop, I am not interested” he comes back with his usual response of “I let you talk when I am not interested”.
Me: So tell me at the time, not keeping it up your sleeve as a defence card to play
Him: Oh I never tell people to stop. That would be rude
Me: Well that’s your problem not mine. Besides I only do it to get you to advance your technical skills, like encouraging you to click the microphone button on your phone to activate voice-to-text because you complain about typing being too difficult.
TL:DR Even dear friends can be annoyingly boring sometimes.
IDK, if my friend did that to me all the time, I would probably make sure I see/hear less of him. That would serously annoy me.
But, each to his own I guess 🤷.
A modern problem is lag in crappy quality phone connections. It makes feedback and interjections difficult. Real life with this friend is much smoother.
I definitely would have ditched him when younger (close to sixty now). Putting up with a lot more now if someone is otherwise honorable, loyal, honest.
People my age run out of friends if they ditch so easily. Indeed that explains many older people being lonely. New friends are harder to come by with age so they should learn more tolerance and social strategy (like my trying to get my friend to text me more than phone me).