EDIT: You don’t have to answer for my specific purposes, if you use a database for any purpose yourself then please share and tell what and why.
I’m not planning to host any fediverse or mastodon instances just yet, but maybe a private email server and porting a discord channel to matrix might be in my future.
What do you use and why? Is it limited to a specific OS, and if you were on a different OS then what would you be using instead? Do you think server hardware is required for most operability or can a good desktop computer and internet speed suffice as long as downtime isn’t a problem?
I don’t mean to sound rude but because you are asking what db to use it sounds like you don’t know what you are doing. In that case let the individual apps run their own db.
Yes you are using more compute resources running several dbs at once but if a db falls over only one app is effected.
I absolutely have no idea what I’m doing, asking questions is evidence of lack of knowledge, couldn’t possibly be considered rude.