Dochyo

If you ever think you’re not in an “echo chamber”, it’s because you have internalized the ambient point of view as Truth.

It’s a rather healthy thing I think for communities to maintain boundaries, and that includes ideological ones. When you enter into a community you must accept the responsibility of understanding that community not only from your current perspective but also on it’s own terms. If you cannot reconcile this new point of view with your own then your simply in the wrong place.

Also, as anyone here should be able to tell you, it is not the goal of Lemmy to grow, it’s goal is to exist. Growth as a goal is it’s own ideology, and in any case Lemmy’s ability to exist and grow in so far as it has is proof of the general correctness of it’s ideals this far.

That would at least solve gerontocracy.

To the point where I straight up leave the room if I see her.

Have you considered the possibility that you are having anxiety attacks? I had a similar situation years ago where I was evading a friend I really wanted to talk to. I had a lot of really awful stuff going on in my life at the time, and trying to engage them in conversation would cause me to flee, and I went out of my way to try to often. In the end I had to resolve other sources of stress before I was able to talk to them again.