bigotry exists in all forms; but it’s only the kind expressed by the uneducated & poor that gets attention and this one has been committed in plain sight since the 1980’s by the wealthy and educated.

i bet that the people who made this decision were dealing with the AIDS epidemic

tests have been available since the 1980’s; they just don’t want gays there.

I’m not allowed to give blood since I’m gay and have an active sex life

you’re right; my diagnosis is recent and i haven spent enough time learning about it.

i’m too autistic to care about other people’s feelings when i share my political opinions and my post history is littered with it especially since my life has also been heavily impacted by clinton enacting don’t ask don’t tell; biden extolling executive order 10450; clinton, bush jr, obama, trump and biden’s immigration policies; the country’s student loan debt situation created by biden’s student loan act; biden using the inflation reduction action to block truly affordable EV’s; and biden banning tiktok.

i’ll save you the trouble of going through my post history and give you a tldr: both clintons & biden are shit stains in this country’s political history and have fucked me over much more than trump could ever fantasize about; even with project 2025. i also wish kamala was better so that i could vote for her, but she’s seems hellbent on make sure that i don’t; so i’m 99% sure i’ll end up voting for the green party again as i have done in the past 12 years, but this time around i’m deeply touched that nearly all of the people who know and care about me will be doing something similar thanks to my proselytizing.

a doma enabled deportation of my life partner 12 years ago.

it was a life altering event that turned me from a liberal into a leftist.

Which made them react by passing laws like doma and don’t ask don’t tell.

Best case scenario is that they pass respect for marriage act which did absolutely nothing but give legal protection for anti-gay bigotry since the supreme court already invalidated all anti-gay marriage laws almost a decade before hand.

there are a lot of barbershops and we would never have known how fucked up so many of them are w/o the internet.

it’s only the lucky and the people with enough support in urban enough environments that are not hiding anymore; everyone else is still stuck in the closet.

They are just quiet about it. They aren’t saying crazy racist nonsense on tiktok, but if you talk to them about issues like housing or schools… they make it very obvious what they think. Using polite language, of course. Black people are great, as long as they don’t live near them, or go to the same school as their kid goes to! These are the same people who are NIMBY because they don’t want ‘people who haven’t worked as hard as I have’ from living near them.

my favorite version of this “identity politics” minimizing the very real and tragic harms that our hegemony has done to its minorities.

the fashy-waves were manifested by centrists leaders that we learned were very fashy-friendly after those upsets made those leaders intrigue with the far right; as is happening in france with macron; or clinging on to conservative policies; as is happening in the uk with starmer.

the people voted left; but all of the leaders went right anyways.

harris and trump are doing something similar with harris ignoring the will of 68% of americans when with comes to the genocide and trump with project 2025.

Men used to wear booty shorts and belly shirts like some women do today; if they bothered with a shirt at all publicly and it was all 100% A OKAY; abs/pecs or not

Have you set the multiuser target as a prerequisite already?

i hate how knowledge of a place’s night spots is so esoterically known to its locals only and it makes finding a new home very difficult; as a night owl.

like you i had grown accustomed to new york’s availability and it took a decade plus to learn where san francisco’s night spots where and it took over a year for me find a new place to live after austin. (austin is the biggest place i’ve ever lived in that shuts down after 10pm except for alcohol)

the cia admitted to starting the cocaine epidemic so that they can use the money to fund rebel fighters to keep central american countries weak and dependent on the united states.

but not until after destroying a whistleblower’s life and livelihood for trying to uncover it publically and then made his death look like a suicide.

knowing a queer kuwaiti, russian, chinese and mexican plus my own experience in the united states have taught me that there’s atleast a bi-model reality for queers everywhere.

anecdotally: the well connected; rich; and/or attractive queers usually don’t see much of a problem with living a queer-phobic country, citing that they can usually find a queer friendly community in their home country without much trouble.

also anecdotally: the other queers that don’t fit into the shapes i mentioned have a bad time in their home country and their existence in the western world isn’t much different than anyone else there.

i felt this way too so i started therapy a while ago and that led to getting tested and diagnosed with autism.

i was surprised since i had known and worked with autistic people and seen depictions of them on tv and movies and never guessed that i shared the same condition that they did. many people refuse to believe that i’m autistic still.

i got that diagnosis when i first hit middle age and learning about it made me wish that i had known sooner since that knowledge would have helped A LOT in my past.

get tested for diabetes; you’re probably not diabetic but an astoundingly large portion of the population is pre-diabetic.

he looked past the asocial behavior caused by autism; the dirt poor immigrant background and sensibilities; and the entitled liberal world view to date and marry a fat, hairy, older, and poor man anyways and that was no small thing for a solidly middle class, cultured, and mainstreamly beautiful man to do in the gay world; he was a living, breathing unicorn.

if i had my choice he would still be here by my side; but he was deported since i couldn’t sponsor him for citizenship due to doma