The only thing that works for me is listening to movies/shows I’ve seen a couple times. That way it’s familiar enough to not keep me up wondering what happens next, but not so familiar that my thoughts take over.

Just curious, do you have ADHD too?

true, but my in-laws graduated about 40 years ago so their secrets are buried in the past

It’s #3 he doesn’t get, not sentence 3. In another comment he mentions believing that accidental pregnancies never happen in his country.

What is so hard to understand? A ton of pregnancies are accidental. You may be from a place that demonizes or covers it up, but it happens. Your lack of acceptance does not change the facts.

I didn’t mean to imply it was an ability issue, they are just unwilling to change lol, they don’t care about privacy. Classic “Well I don’t have anything to hide” fallacy.

I just get so annoyed whenever someone broadly says “god I hate the youth for being so dumb”, idiots come in all ages y’all

I got the same response from my 65 yo in-laws, it ain’t Gen Z

Yes, I should have clarified, that’s why I put “both sides” in quotes.

Are you on mastodon? It doesn’t rely on an algorithm, so people feel free to post how they like instead of trying to tailor their posts to draw the most engagement. I’m still on the hunt for good YT and Instagram replacements, I know there are a few but I’ve been more focused on building up my lemmy/mastodon experience for now. I also joined an instance that avoids defederation as much as possible, so I will see more posts from a variety of viewpoints.

As for news/information, Reuters, PEW Research, and C-SPAN are my go-to’s. I recently discovered Improve The News, which I like quite a lot as it provides the perspective from “both sides”.

I still have more than enough content than I could ever consume in my life, even with eliminating click-bait. There are plenty of people with a wide variety of opinions and viewpoints that are able to convey their messaging without emotional manipulation, tons that I disagree with and/or that provide new perspectives. If you primarily use YouTube, I can see why you would think 99% of people do this, but it’s fairly localized to YT and similar sites.

Yes, it’s why I generally dislike YouTube. I really don’t appreciate the emotional manipulation. It’s also why I try to find unbiased news sources that don’t editorialize to me, I can’t stand clickbait in any form. I like communities like these that help filter out click-bait garbage and instead promote content that is good on its own, instead of content that relies on emotional manipulation.

I HATE titles like these with a PASSION, titles DESTROYED with FEELINGS

I struggle with this too sometimes, from a couple angles. Primarily, I’m worried about how people perceive me. I’ve been practicing not giving a shit what other people think of me for about a decade now, and I’m pretty good, but it doesn’t always work. I have to remind myself that it just doesn’t matter if a stranger disagrees with me, or thinks I’m a fuckwad/idiot/etc, just like my opinion of them doesn’t change their life. We don’t know each other. Their negative opinion of me has no real impact on my life, and holding onto that helps me move past caring about their opinion.

Secondarily, I stress about misinformation/toxic ideas being spread. I pipe up in a lot of discussions about feminism and the patriarchy because I want to clarify misconceptions that a lot of people hold about these issues. But, as far as I know, I’ve never changed someone’s mind, and the effort just brings me down. I have to remind myself it’s not my responsibility to teach someone why they might be wrong. The odds that I would actually succeed are very low, unless the person is genuine and asking questions in good faith.

ETA: lastly, I ask myself how I want to feel today. Do I want this random asshole to ruin my day? I don’t want to give them that power over me. So I work to take back that power and make sure I have a good day in spite of their efforts.

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