Thanks for the kind words, I’m trying my best! Remember just saying something kind about something you like is also a rare art, and I hope you keep that up!

BTW, you can “follow” people on lemmy by shooting a message (even if it’s just says “Follow” in the message) and then just visit your sent messages and look for the ones that say “Follow” and click the user you sent them to. Not perfect but it’s something.

If not, I’m sure I’ll see you around. Cheers!

So sort of my point is that community only feels like work when you’re in the wrong community. An ant doesn’t wake up and so “shit I need to act like an ant today”. It just does ant stuff.

When you’re in the right crowd, it won’t feel like work.

• Step 1 is figuring out who you are. A lot of people don’t even begin to get there until they’re 30yo or more–our world simply does not foster being yourself. Many others learn either much later or sadly sometimes never. Psychologically speaking, “target fixation” is a functional concept. Simply wanting something will attract you to it. Spending a lot of time dreaming of something will draw you to it. Be careful though, the same effect can happen with being jaded as well. You can of course spend your time thinking about who you are or that other people suck. I recommend the former, of course.

• Step 2 is actually wild. Once you get closer and closer to being authentic and let go of the resentment, people will attract to you. Humans have an uncanny ability to sniff out fakeness, and they will avoid or ostracize you for it. When you’re in tune with yourself, it’s actually super attractive. A good example of weird being charismatic is Jack Black or Aubrey Plaza. They are not afraid to be different and people love them for it. But different isn’t the magic sauce, it’s being real.

• Step 3 is now that you know who you are and people are coming to you, is to remember your boundaries. Maybe you don’t like going to the mall. So say no. You may get anxiety doing this in the beginning but it gets easier. If your friends only to be friends because you would give them a ride to the mall, they’re not your real friends. This is a nice tool to keep being certain that the people around you like you for you, not for your utility (maybe you give transportation, they emotional dump on you, maybe you always buy, etc).

Hope this helps. I’m no professional but I will do my best. I love this shit so much–it changed my life and if it can help even one person I’m all about it. I wish someone told me 20 years before I knew!

P.s. I replied to the other person that replied with a comment you may find useful as well.

I would challenge that’s not your authentic self. That’s learned behavior.

If you have been constantly othered or made to feel out of place you will grow resentment towards certain people, and eventually people as a whole.

When everyone is authentic and kind, community happens. Consider people who LARP… they likely would get mocked alone if a single one went to the mall, but in a community with shared expectations and values they have a lot of fun!

Learning one’s authentic self is a journey. Learning boundaries (which allow you to stick to that authentic self) is also a journey. But I do recommend.

To extend what others have said, your “social battery” depletes when you play a persona/mask. Sometimes with neurodivergent people (autistic/ADHD especially) this mask can be completely subconscious and unknown to the person… it’s pretty tricky to learn how to reverse it.

In either case, learning how to be your authentic self without shame is all the fix. Of course this may not be possible depending on environment but it’s something to work towards.

I had the “social battery” issue until I learned how to be me. Sadly, most of the people I knew were acquainted with the masked me, so those friends grew more distant but I have since found people with the same kind of “weird” and social situations are no longer draining (at least with those people). It took a couple years but I can’t recommend it enough.

Oh it’s already there dude. Anyone autistic/ADHD will be happy to fill you in, I’m sure.

Neurotypical shit

Hell yeah

As a psychology nerd:

• the lack of understanding and empathy for others (even when their opinions are different or “wrong”

• The lack of understanding of how behavior is driven and encouraged to change.

• The comfort level with looking at something very complex and assuming you know it deeply in moments (referring to short form video “teaching” psychology and mental health stuff)

• The overall disconnect between the physical medicine community and the psychological/mental health communities (i.e. mental health is a huge driver in cancer, autoimmune, and other diseases)

• I could go on. Learning more is my passion but damn it’s so depressing when I begin to understand something and see the abounding ignorance on it

Oh, good to know. I appreciate the info!

What’s AMP and why is it undesirable?

Leave now. Fuck your stuff.

1. get a cab

2. get a Greyhound to an area with a better outlook.

3. look for roommates in your destination city on the ride

Right now water because I’m at work. At home… more for sure.

Having a variety of drinks nearby is a common autism/neurodivergent thing (ask me how I know). Not sure if that applies to you but there but where they are all distinctly different… Uh maybe look into it lol.

If you are as handy as you say you are, just solder in a new jack. I’m guessing this is a Lenovo Legion based on the voltage. They are replaceable. I work in a PC shop and do them all the time.

Excellent!

Period every couple of weeks… lmao.

For every hour put “8am block” “9am block” etc and it will completely fill their calendar.

You could use a paper planner and refuse to use the calendar too.

Stuff like chatgpt. Stands for Large Learning Model

Hell yeah! Happy to help–it’s definitely a game changer for me and plenty of others. I wish you the best luck moving forward!

PS there is an app, and I think it’s $1. Worth throwing the dev something for their efforts imo!

I work in a computer shop and talk to regular computer users all day everyday.

The average user might know what a browser is. Most don’t know that the Internet is outside of their computer.

Real quotes like this happen everyday: “I just get on the green one to check my Google”. Translation: I check Gmail using the Edge browser.

It took me 25 minutes the other day to explain what video chat was and that FaceTime is only one kind of it, and it’s only available on Apple devices, of which an HP laptop is not.

Do not underestimate the computer illiteracy of the common person.

Looks like they wrote it with two pens simultaneously

I understand your plight. I drive a Miata and it can be scary sometimes.

I do appreciate “road blimps” as a saying. I have historically said “road whales” but road blimps is more fun to say.