• taiyang@lemmy.world
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    18 days ago

    Here’s a bonus I saw at college: “Can I touch your hair?” it’s an especially weird one.

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      18 days ago

      I was blonde growing up in a middle eastern country and people used to want to touch my hair all the time. It’s just curiosity.

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      18 days ago

      white guy here.

      I had a lady do that to me and my beard in college.

      it was weird at the time but scratched a physical contact itch I had no idea I had. the interaction started a long lasting infatuation with black matriarchs.

      my point is, it’s fine to tell people no because it’s a limit of yours, but some people get curious about things that are new(to them) and it shouldn’t be held against them. who knows you might even like it.

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        18 days ago

        The problem is volume. You had one interaction years ago. Black ladies get this sort of thing a lot more. I’m sure it gets exhausting.

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      18 days ago

      I’m not black but Hispanic and get this often because of my curly hair. I actually love it but understand some people might not like it. But at least they ask. Had some people just pat my hair to feel it which is really weird.

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      18 days ago

      Speaking of touching hair, this isn’t really related but what are you supposed to do when holding a baby?
      Like I held my family members baby the other day at Thanksgiving and my brain just defaulted to petting their nearly bald head like my cat 😭

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      18 days ago

      That’s funny, because I had a lady I work with tell me to feel her hair.

      We were talking about how she always had different hairstyles, and then she explained all this stuff about weaves and fake hair, and then she had me feel her hair to tell the difference.

      I did not retain all/any of the knowledge of artificial hair, but I do remember she always had kickass hair styles.

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        18 days ago

        It’s about consent.

        The fact that you’ve heard “Don’t touch a black person’s hair” is because SO MANY nonBlack people would just walk up and start touching us without so much as a “How do you do”.

        Black people aren’t particularly different than anyone else. The way we are treated is often quite different.