Just came across this question on reddit and tbh…i don’t know
People have always told me(including my parents) that i am very antisocial, i don’t know how to speak, i don’t smile often, i’m shy, i look very judgemental or i’m just too egotistic…so i don’t know if i’m actually someone worth hanging out with
And no i didn’t make all these things up i have heard it all my life from my parents, teachers, friends etc.
I don’t know if its just my luck or something about my looks or the way i speak but people don’t really hold back against me
So what about y’all?
I wouldn’t initiate or invite, but if I just happen to be in the same room with myself it would be fine. It would be mostly quiet and we do our own thing, or the occasional silly philosophical or metaphorical discussions but probably nothing real or deep. Or maybe it’ll be a free therapy session, having 2 brains figure out my emotions
I Hang out with myself all the time. It’s fine.
Absolutely. In-fact, me is who I most often hang with.
I would date, fuck, marry & kill myself
In that order, right?
I don’t see how “kill” could be in any other place than last.
I would love to hangout with myself. I’m quiet, calm, and introspective IRL.
I don’t have any friends because I’m disappointed in people my own age. I’d hang out with people 20-30 years older than me, but they’re all dead soooo…
Probably yes, I talk to myself all the time and my sense of humour happens to be pretty similar to mine. At the very least is worth a try.
Agreed! We both like the same shows… never fighting about what to have for dinner… it’s great
Probably not. I don’t really want to be around people who act like me. I’ve done a decent job of reigning in my most asocial behaviours, but they still get through.
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project, so I think I’m doing a good enough job.
Masking is exhausting
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project
I know that feeling too well. I honestly can no longer tell when I have started doing that or how much of it was originally there
If the new you is closer to the person you want to be, isn’t that a win?
I feel like I do this enough that it becomes a comfortable habit. Occasionally, I still want to interrupt people to tell them how wrong they are, or how right I am, or just become the centre of attention. But that isn’t who I want to be. And that urge seems to diminish as I learn to listen and ask questions, and then that becomes more of a habit.
But I guess it depends on what you’re editing.
Yeah, never thought if it like that. I always kinda felt like I lost something, that I conformed rather than maybe just bettering myself.
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation than how I behaved maybe ten years ago
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation
That seems positive. But it’s your call.
For me, “conforming” means listening, considering my audience, controlling interjections, and asking people about stuff. I don’t feel like I’m denying myself, I feel like I’m being more considerate.
I can see how other kinds of conformance could be awful. Denying one’s sexuality or something like that.
It’s nothing that drastic, maybe I just find it hard to differentiate between natural change over time and stuff I pretended to have changed to better fit in
hangout
That’s a noun. You want “hang out” with a space. It’s the difference between asking “what’s up, Chuck” and “what’s upchuck?” Supdog is the exception.
I have difficulty expressing myself around unfamiliar people. I would hang out with myself because I know myself very well. If I did not know the other me and she did not know me, then we’d probably both assume that the other thinks we’re trash and would not hang out. But if we did then we’d enjoy it.
You mean after the sex?
