Context, I’m 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.
As I’ve aged younger women are less and less attractive (thankfully)
But when I’m 60 will 60 year old women be attractive to me?
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The full analysis is of course much more complicated, but I can’t stay to talk about it because I have a date.
It’s personal preference, but basically edge limits that increase over time, like at 15 you’re looking at ±6 months, at 20 it might be + or - 1 or 2 years. At 30 you’re probably at looking at 5 years either side of 30.
Once you hit 500 the attraction window is so large it becomes mostly irrelevant, and you’re judging more on aristocrical lineage and/or aristocrical diet.
It’s only a few more years til 1000 (which usually turns out to be a very dull party with no surprise guests) and by that point you’re lucky to find anyone attractive.
There’s obviously the old ‘hurr durr he’s over 2000 so he must be gay now’ stereotype, but as far as I can tell, attraction isn’t cyclical.
Hope that helps!
On the other side, as someone younger it’s hard to date people much older, as they start casually talking about what they did during various wars, or comparing the COVID pandemic to the black plague, and I’ve just got zero frame of reference to connect.
Everyone much older I’ve met has been just delightful (I assume the rude ones eventually get murdered by their local townsfolk) but it’s just so hard to make that genuine connection when your life experiences are so different, you know?
Wow, how old are you ( if you don’t mind me asking)?
Do you want to know how old I am, or which aristocrats I’ve eaten 😘
Im 6 million years old now, and im attracted to literal planets.
I remember at 2000 the hur due jokes. But honestly everyone’s giblets are so shriveled at that age (unless enhanced through mummification etc) that gender becomes irrelevant. Kind of comes down to who has the best stories at that point.
Wait till you’re a billion years old, I’m exclusively attracted to supermassive black holes now…
It’s hard not to be gravitationally attracted to them.
The problem is that they don’t get hints at all… they are too dense.
I feel like there is a window that moves with you as you age. At 47 I find women attractive up to their early 50s, and down into their 30s.
I mean dating attractive here. I’m not going to try and claim that a hot twenty something on the telly does nothing for me
just turned 40, i can def tell when someone in their 20s is hot, but I’d be really unlikely to date them. But, for example, meeting some rando at a bar and hooking up is different, as long as everyone is on board with the situation and consents. I’ve started finding older women attractive more than I would have when I was younger, it’s just hard to meet people at this age and covid wasted my late 30s doing nothing
There isn’t a limit, your tastes on what you consider “attractive” will change over time. When one is young one only thinks on reproduction, and the older one gets, the more prevalent just having someone who you enjoy keeping you company.
god i wish most men were like this. but there’s 50 yr old men out there dating women fresh out of highschool, yuck
OP doesn’t mention their gender.
true, i made an assumption. either way, its yuck to date someone fresh out of HS if you’re 10, 20, 30, 40+ years older. imo there’s no reality where an 18 year old should be dating a 30 year old, even though it is legal
I think that if people are of an age where they can legally and ethically consent, and if there isn’t any kind of abuse of power going on, it’s none of my damn business. Maybe people should just fuck off with pushing their ideas about morality on other people.
im not pushing anything on anyone?? this is my opinion and i am allowed to have it, i’m not making any laws. i also agree with the other commenter that there’s no way a relationship between a 30 year old and an 18 year old doesn’t have an unbalanced maturity and power level dynamic. this is my opinion.
Xaviera Hollander said that a man isn’t old until there are no women his own age he finds attractive.
So I was old when I turned 13?
Or gay?
[jk]
It could be two things
You eventually see different-dimensions of attractiveness…
Young women’s simple vitality is like a breath of fresh-air in the eyes, after living in the smoggy downtown, – but … their minds are too blank.
Sometimes you see gorgeous determination…
Sometimes you see profound depth, pulling at one’s soul…
Dwelling deeply in both yoga & meditation can do that, as I discovered a few years ago…
( I hadn’t known it’d be visible until seeing it! : )
Sometimes you see delightfully ferrocious multiple-intelligences in a woman…
but our world is so systematic about stomping-out girls’ & womens’ LivingValidity, LivingWorth, LivingPotential, & LivingOpportunity, that it’s too horribly common to see only 1 dimension of pulling-one’s-Eternity-to-them, for me, anyways…
I’m committed to ripping my Soul/CellOfGod from the endless-churn-of-OceanOfPhenomena/UniversesStream.
Solitude, Dwelling Within: war against my unconscious-ignorance.
Forever.
Someday one of the someones/personalities/lives that this-Soul has, will get the final breakthrough…
Someday, UniverseContainment will be broken, for this Soul/continuum.
Enlightenment can happen: the basic foundation-realizations exist, so therefore the rest of the structure, already-described long ago, must also exist.
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