The gender pay gap is insignificant and inconsequential compared to the income differences between working and owning classes. Also, much of the pay gap is due to men culturally tending to not have the option of escaping the grindset. “Honey I’m going to quit my job and do something that doesn’t alienate me, yes it’s going to pay less” is not something universally accepted by wives.
In addition to being less likely than men to say they are currently the boss or a top manager at work, women are also more likely to say they wouldn’t want to be in this type of position in the future. More than four-in-ten employed women (46%) say this, compared with 37% of men. Similar shares of men (35%) and women (31%) say they are not currently the boss but would like to be one day. These patterns are similar among parents.
The wage gap exists because women have reasonable expectations for work-life balance (one reason). Men are culturally expected to rise and grind.
This isn’t the win that wage gap enthusiasts think it is. It’s essentially saying:
Still missing the point. Giving everyone more doesn’t fix inequality.
Giving those with less the means to exist doesn’t make what you have lesser.
The point you’ve made here seems to be, corporations are bad, everyone is exploited now, and if anyone wants to make money you have to give up your life to do so.
Also, the part of the paper you’ve cherry picked suits your narrative but doesn’t paint the entire picture.
being gay is more accepted. there’s also much less pressure to conform to masculine standards. e.g., being able to talk about feelings, expressing yourself in fashion/makeup, joining in traditionally feminine careers like nursing/teaching (both of which have exploded in the past 50 years). just to name a few
they also haven’t used the draft in 50 years
edit: striked through things are either factually incorrect (nursing) or more nuanced than my original comment implied (military draft)
there’s also much less pressure to conform to masculine standards. e.g., being able to talk about feelings
Not the wider experience. Men are still stigmatised for expressing themselves. Example: how often do men get to be emotionally vulnerable in a public setting compared to women?
joining in traditionally feminine careers like nursing/teaching
This is flat out wrong, it’s actually getting worse.
you’re right about the teachers thing, my apologies for getting things mixed up. from what i can see, i was right about the nursing thing though. here’s a source from columbia verifying that nursing has increased 10x since 1997: https://www.nursing.columbia.edu/news/many-more-men.
Not the wider experience. Men are still stigmatised for expressing themselves. Example: how often do men get to be emotionally vulnerable in a public setting compared to women?
my claim wasn’t that men are no longer stigmatized, i was only trying to suggest that it’s better now than it was before. there is still a long way to go.
That’s because there are enough men who are financially destitute, who sell their lives into the military. Don’t need a draft when there is enough blood money going around.
i agree with this point is general, but i think financial destitution is something that is on the rise for both men and women. you bring up a good point that the decrease in people getting drafted isn’t the win i originally thought it was, so i’ll take that off the list.
things like this made the original question a bit tricky to answer: i can think of many ways in which things have gotten better/worse for both men and women, but i can’t really think of ways in which things have gotten better/worse for men. i can think of a lot of ways things have gotten better for women though (and some ways things have gotten worse)
The fact that I can’t wear a skirt in public without facing backlash, but a woman wearing pants is seen as normal makes me feel like there is still a lot of progress we have to make. I guess it’s equivalent would be women going topless casually. I really hate conservative/puritan values.
Literally nobody said anything about “comfort women”, or that male loneliness even has anything to do with sexuality, for that matter.
One thing women could do to help is to stop demonizing and dismantling male-only spaces that provide men an opportunity for bonding and comradeship while hypocritically demanding more and more women-only spaces.
Ok, then stop making those ‘male only’ spaces places where women are employed as sex objects and men are excluding their female colleagues from networking whilst engaging in a bit of fun sexual harrassment.
Ok, then stop making blanket statements that all men’s spaces are like that, when that’s clearly not the case.
In fact, to answer your original question in a more complete manner: one thing women could do to help men’s lives improve is to stop systemically demonizing men in general.
Addressing men’s mental health. Normalizing therapy and talking about issues.
Promoting ideals and examples of healthy intimate relationships: communication, setting boundaries, etc.
Moving a way from the insecure, performative, fucked up version of “masculinity” – e.g. “I can’t wear pink, play with dolls with my kid, or bake because those things are feminine”.
Yeah, fuck men who want to wear blue and play with cars. Being a man isn’t allowed. Unless you accept feminization, you’re the enemy. No wonder men choose to vote for the bad guys, when the “good” side demand that they play a role as weak.
No, I’m not. Regardless, my point is that that list is making requirements on some men to be what they don’t want to be, to not be considered the enemy of the new left. Sure, some men would love to be allowed to wear pink, but some of us would hate to have to wear it. When you present the pink-wearing, baking, doll playing man as the one you welcome on your political “side”, you’re telling every man who doesn’t conform to that, that they’re not welcome. So they join the right, despite it being full of nazis. We don’t want to join the nazi side, but unlike you they don’t hate us for who we are.
I’m a white man. The kind of people who are represented by the downward arrows. My point is that the arrows are going that way because of attitudes like those in the comment above. We used to vote for the socialist parties when it was the working class against the capital. Now it’s white men who are declared the enemy by those parties, because of gender and skin, aspects which are impossible to change.
Is it really worse? Or does it just hurt your feels when women can decide something on their own?
Why not both? Benefit to women, and benefit to men.
This isn’t a zero sum game.
You’re not wrong, but the wage gap? Not going to close if we give everyone a raise. It would be the same wage gap.
The gender pay gap is insignificant and inconsequential compared to the income differences between working and owning classes. Also, much of the pay gap is due to men culturally tending to not have the option of escaping the grindset. “Honey I’m going to quit my job and do something that doesn’t alienate me, yes it’s going to pay less” is not something universally accepted by wives.
I’m pretty sure that by this point most reasonable people have realized that the wage gap is a myth, so that’s probably not your best example.
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/03/01/gender-pay-gap-facts/
https://www.allsides.com/news-source/pew-research
A study and a bias check on the source from the study. Happy?
The wage gap exists because women have reasonable expectations for work-life balance (one reason). Men are culturally expected to rise and grind.
This isn’t the win that wage gap enthusiasts think it is. It’s essentially saying:
Still missing the point. Giving everyone more doesn’t fix inequality.
Giving those with less the means to exist doesn’t make what you have lesser.
The point you’ve made here seems to be, corporations are bad, everyone is exploited now, and if anyone wants to make money you have to give up your life to do so.
Also, the part of the paper you’ve cherry picked suits your narrative but doesn’t paint the entire picture.
Yes, I chose the part of the paper that supported my argument.
So what? Is it out of context? Nope.
You literally sell your time (life) to get money. That is what a wage is. Want more money? Sell more time.
I’m not saying that is a bad or good thing. I’m stating straight facts.
Name one thing thats gotten better for men in 50 years.
being gay is more accepted. there’s also much less pressure to conform to masculine standards. e.g., being able to talk about feelings, expressing yourself in fashion/makeup, joining in traditionally feminine careers like
nursing/teaching (both of which have exploded in the past 50 years). just to name a fewthey also haven’t used the draft in 50 yearsedit: striked through things are either factually incorrect (nursing) or more nuanced than my original comment implied (military draft)
Fair. A win for all.
Not the wider experience. Men are still stigmatised for expressing themselves. Example: how often do men get to be emotionally vulnerable in a public setting compared to women?
This is flat out wrong, it’s actually getting worse.
https://www.unesco.org/en/articles/gender-equality-and-through-teaching-profession
Sex ratios in healthcare occupations: population based study.
That’s because there are enough men who are financially destitute, who sell their lives into the military.
Don’t need a draft when there is enough blood money going around.
you’re right about the teachers thing, my apologies for getting things mixed up. from what i can see, i was right about the nursing thing though. here’s a source from columbia verifying that nursing has increased 10x since 1997: https://www.nursing.columbia.edu/news/many-more-men.
my claim wasn’t that men are no longer stigmatized, i was only trying to suggest that it’s better now than it was before. there is still a long way to go.
i agree with this point is general, but i think financial destitution is something that is on the rise for both men and women. you bring up a good point that the decrease in people getting drafted isn’t the win i originally thought it was, so i’ll take that off the list.
things like this made the original question a bit tricky to answer: i can think of many ways in which things have gotten better/worse for both men and women, but i can’t really think of ways in which things have gotten better/worse for men. i can think of a lot of ways things have gotten better for women though (and some ways things have gotten worse)
The fact that I can’t wear a skirt in public without facing backlash, but a woman wearing pants is seen as normal makes me feel like there is still a lot of progress we have to make. I guess it’s equivalent would be women going topless casually. I really hate conservative/puritan values.
Why do things need to get better for men? Things have been pretty excellent for men for a very very long time.
Pretty excellent, aye? These men just need to pull themselves up by their bootstraps.
And how should women help with male loneliness? Do you want a comfort woman assigned to you? Noone is entitled to a relationship.
I wasn’t insinuating that women should help with male loneliness. I don’t think women have the answer here.
Literally nobody said anything about “comfort women”, or that male loneliness even has anything to do with sexuality, for that matter.
One thing women could do to help is to stop demonizing and dismantling male-only spaces that provide men an opportunity for bonding and comradeship while hypocritically demanding more and more women-only spaces.
Ok, then stop making those ‘male only’ spaces places where women are employed as sex objects and men are excluding their female colleagues from networking whilst engaging in a bit of fun sexual harrassment.
Ok, then stop making blanket statements that all men’s spaces are like that, when that’s clearly not the case.
In fact, to answer your original question in a more complete manner: one thing women could do to help men’s lives improve is to stop systemically demonizing men in general.
Here’s 3.
Yeah, fuck men who want to wear blue and play with cars. Being a man isn’t allowed. Unless you accept feminization, you’re the enemy. No wonder men choose to vote for the bad guys, when the “good” side demand that they play a role as weak.
Your problem is thinking that wearing blue is masculine and baking is feminine. Neither of those things are weak either.
No, I’m not. Regardless, my point is that that list is making requirements on some men to be what they don’t want to be, to not be considered the enemy of the new left. Sure, some men would love to be allowed to wear pink, but some of us would hate to have to wear it. When you present the pink-wearing, baking, doll playing man as the one you welcome on your political “side”, you’re telling every man who doesn’t conform to that, that they’re not welcome. So they join the right, despite it being full of nazis. We don’t want to join the nazi side, but unlike you they don’t hate us for who we are.
No
Im sorry but if the nazis dont hate you for who you are then who are you? Because they hate everyone who isn’t them.
I’m a white man. The kind of people who are represented by the downward arrows. My point is that the arrows are going that way because of attitudes like those in the comment above. We used to vote for the socialist parties when it was the working class against the capital. Now it’s white men who are declared the enemy by those parties, because of gender and skin, aspects which are impossible to change.