So normally people like me get extremely happy if you say something like ‘nice shirt’, however it got me wondering about people who receive compliments and gifts all the time, what makes y’all happy? I presume it gets kinda annoying after some time?

  • fastandcurious@lemmy.worldOP
    6·
    9 months ago

    Tbh I am kinda on the fence on this particular subject, like some sort of a compliment when I am a bit down would be nice, but the feeling of being complimented once every two/three years is so absolutely ethereal to me that I don’t wanna let it go, it’s a different kind of happiness which I don’t think I would get if I started getting compliments more regularly

    But you know that is just my opinion

      • Kilnier@lemmy.ca
        3·
        9 months ago

        Listen to this guy. I’ve lived the shift he’s prompting you take.

        It’s incredibly hard to describe. People start to see it on you I think.

        From my experience it seems to be in the way I look at people differently and how my body language has shifted. I’m face-blind so it’s hard for me to say for sure but I think people can see that I’m looking for positivity and a way to compliment them or brighten their day.

        And if you’re trying to get laid… Holy shit. Give a genuine thank you and compliment someone of the same sex on your dates. Show your romance for the world and not just the person across the table. It really really works.

          • Kilnier@lemmy.ca
            4·
            9 months ago

            Lmao exactly.

            I work at a lumber mill and made the GM cry in the break room one day. All I said was ‘I see you man’ after talking about the stress he takes on.

            He’s a very different person with me now.

            ‘Compassionate Masculinity’ is how I described one of my managers at the Apple Store. He taught me a lot through his example.

    • Kilnier@lemmy.ca
      2·
      9 months ago

      I understand this concern. It has been a strange shift but honestly it’s wonderful. That ethereal feeling doesn’t necessarily go away but it does change a bit.

      As you get better at giving compliments and lifting people up you will draw similar people to you and teach people around you to speak to you in a similar way. There’s a feedback loop that raises that ethereal feeling to something more familiar but no less effecting.