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Be direct in communication when needed, otherwise just don’t.
Thanks yea being direct is important for sure.
Do they dislike me for no good reason? If yes: fuck them, I’m awesome!
Do they dislike me because I did something dumb? Let’s talk and let me appologise if I cocked something up for you. My intentions are rarely malicius.
This let’s me live a happy life knowing I didn’t ruin anyone’s day and ignore the rest.
Agreed.
Because of my kind nature it isn’t very often that people dislike me or have a problem with me.
When they do it’s always the same story for 99% of other people. So they just don’t get along with anyone. Can’t people please them all…
Have you considered that you’re a people pleaser? Being kind and nice is good, but do you do that in detriment of yourself? Can you say no to favors?
A somewhat cheesy quote that helped me a lot is “you can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the world, but some people just don’t like peaches”. I used to try way too hard to be likeable and I agonised over people who didn’t like me.
There was an instance of a colleague being rude and unprofessional to me, and under the framework of “they don’t like me and that’s why they’re being unkind”, it put the onus on me to change, which wasn’t reasonable. It should be possible for people to not like each other in a working relationship while still being respectful and productive.
Kill them with kindness. Be direct and to the point, but make them hate you more because you’re too nice. That way, if they want to talk shit about you, all they can say is that you’re too nice.
As someone else mentioned, if you screwed up, make amends, then the kindness thing.
Avoid them when you can. Clear, minimal, a bit more polite than you would like to be when you can’t. If it’s work related focus on your common goal.
I’d also advise you to take some time to reflect on what makes them dislike you. If you find a lot of people who dislike you for similar reasons you may have to evaluate if you should (and can) change.
Don’t.
Agree. Don’t let them make it about them.
Worrying about what others think will keep you from having bliss.
At work, it can be difficult, specially if it’s someone you have to work with.
The adult way is to have a talk about it and figure out what’s causing the issue.
The childish way is to talk shit about the person with others and gather support for you being right and the other person being a weirdo.
Most people go with the childish way since it’s easier and doesn’t require courage.
For some people, it’s not really an solvable issue and no amount of talking about it will make them like you. Some people are just assholes for various reasons, and it’s best to just minimally interact with them as opposed to trying to understand them. Courage doesn’t necessarily play a factor. Idk, just my 2 cents.
Obviously not the case for everyone, but I’ve been there before in the trying to reach an understanding route, and it doesn’t necessarily work. Some people are just a bit unhinged and it’s best to minimally interact.
Yeah I don’t think what I said applies to 100% of the working population. :) I have one guy at work that I’m also avoiding contact with. He is a sociopath according to all the classic signs. So some common sense is always needed.
Yeesh, good luck, man.
You can’t make people like you, but you have a right to demand respect.
I worked a job where I shared a space with another worker. They worked the shift ahead of me. Because I was brand new they thought it would be fun to leave the area a mess. I took all the garbage and put it in their company mailbox. I told them that if they left their personal stuff out I’d be nice and return it to them.
They eventually got the idea.
Any tips on dealing with people that don’t like you?
I would normally order my goons to deal with them.
Sure thing, boss, working on it
Stop caring. There is nobody you could be that will please everybody, and if there was…there’d be nothing of you left as you morphed to fit the situation and company around you. Just be yourself and ignore their passive aggressive BS or avoid if possible.
(yes, it is that simple but still harder than it sounds. Ask yourself “Do I need to give a shit about this?” and the answer will usually be no.)
If you have to interact with them, make it as minimal as possible. Otherwise just blank them out; ignore them, don’t look at them, don’t talk to them, don’t notice them.
Gray rocking all day, everyday.
Came in here because curious, and now I learned something new and helpful! Glad I looked it up.
Minimize interactions, stay professional, be polite.
They don’t have to like you and it’s okay that they don’t. Don’t take it personally. Unless of course you’re an asshole.
