How many tickles does it take to make a squid fly?

I figure it’s got to be about ten tickles

I think it depends on what you may or may not have an opinion about.

Extreme example: if you don’t have an opinion about nazis, you might be a nazi

I know you’re apprehensive about using vinegar, but it is quite a potent degreaser. And I mean, don’t give it a bath, but wiping it down with a rag or a toothbrush shouldn’t be too bad. That’s how I clean my air fryer

You could try something like isopropyl alcohol if you’re concerned about the electronics. If you use a high purity then it actually evaporates on its own and is non-corrosive. It’s my goto cleaner for electronics parts.

There’s a couple things at play here when you talk to people online.

Ultimately, there’s a difference between feeling attacked and being attacked. Both are common in online discussions.

Why do people attack people?

The anonymity and distance of the internet makes it easier for people to share strong opinions - for better or worse. There’s a certain amount of psychology around the design of social media that pushes people towards confrontation.

Sometimes aggression is the default state for people. Depending on your world view that might be either sad or necessary.

That said, I believe there’s a difference between a justified attack and an unjustified one. If someone is spreading hate, we all owe it to the community to fuck that person up with our words. If someone shares a harmless opinion then there isn’t much call for a personal attack.

Why do I feel attacked?

If you feel attacked on the internet, there’s ultimately two possibilities: you’re being attacked or you’re mistaken. For the sake of this section, let’s say you’re mistaken.

Non-verbal communication is an essential part of communication between humans, and is something that’s hard to replicate in text. Ultimately, our non-verbal cues set an expected tone.

Sometimes when writing we recognize this and use a tonal indicator to set expectations. Emoji 🙄, gestures *rolls eyes* and, appending flags /s are all ways that we might set tone. These three examples all indicate “sarcasm” which for many people seems to be the default way to express themselves.

Sarcasm in particular is problematic because it often inverts the meaning of what was said. The phrase, “oh yeah, brilliant idea” has opposite interpretations if you’re being sarcastic. Sometimes the writer assumes the reader will know what they intended because they were feeling sarcastic when they typed it. Of course, as a reader we have no way of knowing what the writer’s feelings were at the time of writing.

Another element at play here is that a good deal of conversation on the internet is debate. Some people equate disagreement with condemnation, so if your feelings are hurt by that it’s common to lash out. Many debates on the internet start civilly enough and then deteriorate to name calling and cursing in short order. It’s wise to try to be the bigger person and assume no malice, because once it gets out it’s hard to put back.

Statistics and Bias

You probably had the right idea that only about 1% of users are active commenters. Similar to that, there’s also a phenomenon where the most vocal (and often inflammatory) users represent a similarly small portion of the group.

Our brains are evolved for survival, so they pay special attention to negative stimuli. Basically, they’re always looking for trouble, and if you’re looking for trouble you’re likely to find it.

What this ultimately means is that we remember the bad things far more memorably than the good things. It also means that even if a small percentage of people are attacking others, because they dominate the conversation we start to believe that everyone carries that opinion. But as you point out, 99% of users aren’t even commenting, so we really don’t have a good grasp on what the larger population is like.

It also means that if you exercise your block list, you don’t have to put in too much work to remove the most hateful people from your feed.

Closing

Anyway, I think you have the right idea. It sounds like you don’t go looking for fights.

I try to keep a similar philosophy. If I disagree with someone then I’ll seek to empathize or educate. However, if someone is vocal about my erasure or directing hate and violence towards people then I’ll let them have it. I figure those people are looking for trouble and by golly I’ll give it to them - it’s always morally correct to punch a nazi.

My dad recently got hearing aids. The technology has come a long way. His are bluetooth and pair with his phone.

Back in the day of you wanted to ignore someone you’d just turn off your hearing aids. He uses his to listen to music now.

I’m sure there might be some practical difference between hearing aids and airbuds, but it does seem like there’s a lot of overlap

It’s funny you say that, because I think the cart is what most diehard fans of the first game disliked. It replaces the dungeon crawl. I suppose the Stress system gets a significant rework, but it keeps the spirit of the original

I think it’s a big step forward though

As a general rule when seeking knowledge you should define what your Three Letter Acronyms (TLA) are. I don’t know what these are even with a smidgen of context

If it’s legal or political you should probably specify what country you’re referring to when you’re in the world community

I’m a big fan of Darkest Dungeon, but I’m also a chronic restarter. Building a roster of heroes is fun, but permadeath is so punishing. I have a similar problem in XCOM where you spend so long in a campaign building up your roster, then you lose your ace squad and the whole thing unravels

I really enjoyed Darkest Dungeon 2. There are some radical changes, but it still hits the core vibe and offers a more roguelike experience. Even if I fail my run in spectacular fashion, I’m able to start over on the next one. Far less frustrating than a whole new campaign

Coolio, thanks for the detailed reply

I’ve got lots of new stuff to check out now!

Sounds like you need an ice cream eating partner.

I volunteer as tribute

Is that why the back lot of the hospital smells so enticing?

I think you can actually deglaze with any liquid if you want to: even water. Wine is often used for the flavour, and I guess in some dishes the alcohol can affect the other ingredients too.

That said, I imagine lentils would turn out just as good with non-alcoholic wine, so no worries there.

I’m sure you know your friend better than I do, but as a general rule if someone says they won’t eat food with any amount of alcohol in it, it’s good to respect that choice. Some people have allergies or intolerances, or the flavour might cause an alcoholic distress, and that’s before you get into people’s religious, philosophical, or dietary beliefs about alcohol.

Honestly, that’s kind of true for any ingredient, but alcohol tends to be one that people push people on and it can be really triggering for some people.

The Tao of Pooh is awesome. I had a similar experience to you when reading it, where I realized that it was already pretty close to my philosophy.

The Te of Piglet is also there if you want some more reading through a western lens, but really the Tao of Pooh is all you need to get yourself thinking

I kind of hate to say it because I’m not a big fan of it, but video content seems to have the widest appeal.

I don’t know that you’ll ever be able to get to a single absolutely clear method though. People have different learning styles. For example, I prefer reading a book by text, but I just can’t absorb an audiobook. Meanwhile I have several friends who can’t focus well enough to sit through a dense book and can retain the whole thing through audio.

Anyway, videos check a lot of boxes that other formats miss. For example, so much of our communication relies on non-verbal cues which are missing entirely from books. While an audiobook might capture the tone, you still miss the body language.

Another advantage to videos is that depending on the tutorial, it can be both visual and experiential. A step-by-step video recipe is more accessible for new cooks who might not know what “mix until smooth” actually looks like.

So why don’t I like videos? Well, to use the cooking example again, I already know how to cook. I don’t actually need step-by-step guides, and usually I just need to refer back to the ingredients or a single step. It can be difficult or time consuming to scroll back through a video and find the exact right spot. My personal peeve is all these tiktok videos that get shared to me showing a recipe, where each ingredient flashes once for a half second, and if I miss it I have to let the whole video loop to find it again.

So anyway for broad appeal and for introduction to a subject, I think videos are probably the most enjoyed format. For a deeper dive or a reference it’s got to be text for me.

I was in a thread the other day about what things make us feel stupid, and for me it was front end development. Saying it out loud made me realize that I should probably take another kick at the can, and I’m starting on React today.

Software’s one of those tricky things where sometimes you never feel like you’re very good at. Every thing you learn makes you realize there’s more to learn, and as you become more knowledgeable sometimes you might actually feel less knowledgeable. The Imposter Syndrome kicks many a new developer’s ass, so try to bear in mind that you probably know way more about software than before you started, and now you have about a year’s experience to boot!

Good luck to you!

Oh hey, that’s really cool! A lot of the music I like to sing along to frankly isn’t popular enough to get the karaoke treatment

How do you get started learning about that? Do you need a high quality source with a separate vocal track, or can you somehow isolate the vocals from a simple rip?

Super cool hobby, good luck to you

I read the headline and thought “RIP for a real one”

Then I read “He was 69 years old” and I thought “Nice”

Wtf is wrong with me?

I’m looking over his IMDB page now and it’s a lot of memories. I always knew him as a B-movie horror legend, but it looks like he didn’t shy away from voice acting for films and games. A lot of good stuff there that I had no idea he was in

Goodnight, Candyman

“Why do you want to live? If you had learned just a little from me you would not beg to live. I am rumour. It is a blessed condition, believe me. To be whispered about at street corners. To live in other people’s dreams but not have to be. Do you understand?”

Oh yeah, and if you want any online services, you’ll want to look up what those cost. I don’t know if they offer a family discount for multiple accounts

I guess ultimately it depends on what kind of games your family likes

As you mention, party games you only need one. If your family’s into single player or portables then each person needs one

How is it affordable? Well, it isn’t really. Although I guess a switch probably retails for about half the cost of a PS5

It’s funny though, if you compare it to other consoles, I think people are far less likely to buy an Xbox or Playstation for each family member. And yet, people would do that for the gameboy and DS without batting an eye. The switch is trying to be everything, for better or worse.

When we got ours, we were pretty content having just one and then playing party games or taking turns on single player games. Sooner or later though, we had to get another so we could play pokemon together. Which is a shame because my interest in pokemon seems to have suddenly fallen off a cliff and now my switch is collecting dust

So I guess all that to say: your mileage may vary

How do you know they’re a clown if they’re naked?

They might just be a juggalo