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  • That is not accurate.

    • RedHat is the standard for high-budget American corps.
    • Rocky and similar for low-budget American orgs
    • Ubuntu Server has a large following with developers who think they don’t need sysadmins.
    • Debian Stable is more popular with European orgs that aren’t incentivized by US government contracts to go with Redhat. It is much more stable than Ubuntu, has been more reliable in its support promises than Redhat, and doesn’t suffer from the NIH syndrome that infects both.
    • Ubuntu is popular with home users
    • Debian Testing is good for workstations and personal machines that need to be a bit more current
    • Debian Unstable for people who like Debian but want to live on the bleeding edge



  • No - it was the language that I said was transphobic, not the author. Given that there were two different word choices (“transsexual” and “perceived gender”) that reinforced each other, it seems more likely than not that they reflected the mindset of the author, but not having looked further for their other writings I was not sure. That’s why I said " transphobic language" and not “transphobic author”.









  • Having known multiple trans people and heard them talk about the arguments for and against early disclosure: Fear.

    1. They may not be public about their status, and fear exposure to family or coworkers seeing their public profile.

    2. They may fear harassment from transphobes. This could range from DM accusations of pedophilia to religious screeds to doxxing to death threats.

    3. They may be trying to avoid “chasers.” There are some people for whom a trans body (particularly a transfem body) is a fetish, who don’t actually care about the person inside. Plenty of transpeople don’t appreciate that kind of attention.

    4. Fear of rejection. They may believe that nobody will respond if they’re open about not being cis.

    Also two less fear-related (and less common) possibilities:

    1. Ideology. To some people, specifying “transman” or “transwoman” reinforces a social distinction they find invalidating or don’t accept. How many profiles have you seen that specify themselves as “cisman” or “ciswoman”? For these people, it’s a way of rejecting cisgender normativity.

    2. Maybe they just aren’t ready to talk about their genitals yet, or have their first conversation be about their surgical plans or history. Not only can get really repetitive having that be the first conversation with every single match, it means they don’t get any of the information they’re looking for about a potential partner until much later in the process and have to invest a lot of their own time up front. Just like you want the salient information you care about early on, so do they.