Dehumanising people makes it easy to hate and persecute them, and to blame them for a bunch of stuff which isn’t their fault. It really is a classic move with a rich history.

Is the three musketeers really on par with the count? I’ve been meaning to read it for months but I always got the sense it would be disappointing.

All of HP Lovecraft’s stories.

I liked it until about half way through, it seemed to lose all the intrigue and then there was the weird bit about rape (if I remember correctly) at which point I gave up. Shame because it started well.

I’ve been down this rabbit hole as well. They all have problems but I’m most happy with Cantata for library playing (beets for file/tag management) and deadbeef for odd local files and file conversation.

I don’t understand why people do this. Surely if you lose your phone or it is stolen then you are without your phone, ID and bank card?

Sounds like textbook NPD, particularly his backstory.

You mention gender role stereotypes but then fall prey to one when you clearly think you should be served first because of your gender. If you don’t believe in equality and would rather stick to ancient and out of date traditions that’s fine but perhaps he is a bit more progressive and you are not well suited to each other.

It’s ok for a woman to pay, it’s ok for a woman to suggest a second venue, it’s ok for a woman to make the first move. It’s not 1950 any more.

Regardless, like others have mentioned, having this much to question after one date isn’t a good sign.

I’m trying notally for notes right now, seems to be good enough for what I need (mainly checklists for shopping and very occasional notes) and has a widget. No idea how the widget compares to SN though

You sound the coolest if you say you use Arch btw (this is a meme now).

It’s pretty common to bond over dislikes. Besides, disliking something isn’t negative, and there’s nothing wrong with being negative even if it were.

Yeah I was a bit perplexed by the mention of it being the strong stuff but I think you’re right.

When you look at support for things such as physical/emotional/financial abuse against men then it’s painfully lacking which can be devastating. This alone is a lot more widespread than you may think. Whether this warrants a minister is another question but there are areas which desperately need attention and it’s unfair to say just because women get the shitty end of the stick in general that men are not in need to support too.

My advice is to just apply and if it takes a while then keep learning and practicing what you know. I was in a similar position and decided to learn python to automate stuff in my admin job. The job was fairly data centric so it wasn’t long until I saw someone using pandas and I instantly knew I wanted to be an analyst. I spent a while learning pandas, then SQL and then dicked around with power bi a bit.

When I started applying for jobs I didn’t have much success at first but I stumbled on one which included tools I had no experience with but I applied anyway, not expecting anything but feeling desperate and hopeless at that point. Well, I heard back from this one and I ended up getting the job somehow. Now I use Alteryx, which I had never heard of, and Tableau, which I had never used. They must have seen that I was passionate and loved to learn, and we’re happy to take me on based on the potential I had. I rarely use python or pandas, occasionally SQL for basic stuff, so it was more the principles from learning these that were useful rather than the actual tools themselves.

I would recommend learning at least the basics of SQL and start learning tableau (by using tableau public). Most of the skills are transferable so learning the logic of one programming language and a bi tool will mean that you can pick up others fairly easily and employers understand this. If you are in excel a lot then learn how to write formulas and learn power query so you can practice joins and data cleansing.

So basically, get the fundamentals down and start applying, don’t spend forever trying to learn a million things because you think they are all essential. Apply for as many jobs as you can, even if you don’t know the tools they use, and practice and develop your skills while you are waiting.

It’s crazy that you have to explain this in such a basic way but it’s still ignored/denied/misunderstood.

A valid reason for a start.

Same for all daws for me. I tried to get along with foss ones but they pale in comparison. Ardour crashed a lot for me, especially when the project got large with many plugins so I moved to reaper and had no such issues. On bitwig now and I can’t really think of anything even comparable that’s foss, let alone easier/better.

Her being a narcissist.

$500 seems insane to me, I’ve only ever paid about £100 for a phone and it does everything I need it for.