Saying “don’t ever express your sexual or romantic interest in women, just be their friend and eventually they’ll come around” is the cringy, needy, “nice guy” playbook. It (1) never works, (2) is disingenuous, and (3) never gets you any closer to having any sexual or romantic partners in the long run.

I’m not saying “don’t be friends with women”. I’m saying - if you are into a girl, make a fucking move. Clearly and openly express your interest and take rejection on the chin. And don’t assume that getting romantically rejected means you can’t be friends afterwards and use that as an excuse to procrastinate.

Step two: realize that you can become hot by putting in a reasonable amount of effort.

Did you get a huge fly tattooed on your thigh because you’re a stinky bitch?

No pull, but got a huge laugh.

But at the same time if you try to make friend with more women, maybe one day, you’ll find a partner in one of them. If you genuinly try to make connection with a woman in a non-sexual and non-romantical way and after sometime, you feel like having another kind of relation, it is totally different and not creepy at all.

This is terrible advice. Don’t listen to it OP! She’s sending you down the nice guy friend zone trap!

As a guy, I can firmly say that I’ve never made a friend at the bank, grocery store, or coffee shop. If anyone started talking to me at one of these places, I would be very confused, and wonder why they are talking to me and what they are trying to get from me. And similarly, I have never struck up a conversation with anyone in these places - that would be super weird.

Of course, I see hot women in these places frequently, and I’d like to talk to them. Well, not really talk to them so much as fuck them. I’d like to say “hey, you have a really nice ass. Wanna bang one out in the bathroom right now?” Which is not unusual - this is just standard male sexuality. Hence why if you look on Grindr, a guy’s profile will be a picture of his asshole, and a common opener is “Hey, you in the McDonalds too? Wanna fuck in the bathroom right now?”

Unfortunately as a guy talking to a nice lady in the grocery store, that would be sexual harassment, and then I would be banned from that Safeway or whatever. So if I want to approach the girl with a nice ass, I need to have some kind of excuse - like, I dunno, what apples she’s looking at or whatever. But now it feels like I’m lying, because I don’t give a shit about apples - I just care about her nice ass.

Here is a much better article written by a legitimate climbing publication that actually knows anything at all about climbing:

https://gripped.com/news/adam-ondra-makes-second-free-ascent-of-dawn-wall-in-yosemite/

The article is wrong. You can clearly see Adams lead line in the picture in the article.

Adam on The Dawn Wall was super impressive - iirc, he sent the route in a single ground-up push or something like that, when it took Tommy, like, 8 years to establish the route. But he def didn’t solo it.

Source: rock climber for 10 years, going to climb in The Valley later this week.

This is a normal human reaction.

But then you do it a few times and you get used to it.

Look up thread. Better pic posted shows it is clearly his lead line, and he has a bolt at his feet. The rope looks tight because it has friction from running through the pieces below, and because the rope has weight of its own pulling it down.

What if you’ve already given yourself tinnitus?

As an Airbnb host…

fuuuuuuuuuck

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskEconomics/

It really is the best place. Yes, yes, “reddit bad”. But the “Ask X” subs tend to actually have some decently high quality information because they vet commenters so that actual experts in the field have a much louder voice than others. You’d have a hard time standing up a similar forum on Lemmy because (a) there isn’t as much traffic volume, so experts would be less interested in coming around and (b) because economists would quickly get tired of economically illiterate leftists asking the same questions over and over and then demonizing them when they don’t say Marx was right about everything.

I crossed the border from Mexico into the US yesterday. Wait time was reasonable - maybe 45 min. They asked where I was coming from and where I was going, and if I had any produce. I said I had some food that was all bought in America (which was true). They checked, and told me they had to confiscate my avocados. I asked if I could just eat the avocados instead. They said that, really, they just needed to confiscate the avocado seeds. So I cut the avos open, gave them the seeds, and they sent me on my merry way.

On the whole, a bit annoying, but everyone was fairly polite and understanding. But for reference, I am a white US citizen, so ymmv.

It’s a good enough reason for me.

Dreaming Spanish, if you are trying to learn Spanish. I seriously think it is the future of language learning, bar none.

Sounds like a pretty big cope. Sex isn’t about cumming. It’s about emotional connection with another human being. Being unable to get fulfillment of this basic human need is sad and lonely. This is why fleshlights have a stigma that beating your bishop the old fashioned way doesn’t - every healthy teenaged boy spanks it on the reg. But actually purchasing a device speaks to a level of hopelessness at obtaining actual sex that is sad, which implies a failure to be attractive, which is itself unattractive.

I said some, since I didn’t feel comfortable giving even general statistics here.

Prostitution should be legal and regulated, which would significantly lessen incidents of abuse of women.

Do porn stars and prostitutes like their jobs? Some of them do. For some it is just a job. For some, they hate it, but it is their best option for making money. In all these cases, this is not different than any other job, and I don’t see a problem with that. Only if there is real significant coersion does it become problematic to me.

There’s a difference between “I wish I had the privileges and expectations of being a boy” and “I wish I had a penis”

An addiction is when your habit starts having significant negative impacts on your life. So, for example, if you are choosing to stay home and watch porn instead of going to work, buying groceries, go out with friends, or sleep with actual women, then yes, you have a porn addiction.

If you jerk off on a Tuesday night before you go to bed… that’s fine. Watch porn, or don’t, it doesn’t matter. If you enjoy your life more when you don’t watch porn for whatever reason, that’s fine too. You do you. But regularly watching porn isn’t an addiction any more than regularly grabbing a beer with friends on a Friday night makes you an alcoholic.

Also, yes, there is a problem of the exploitation of women in some porn. Some porn studios do take advantage of women. But women aren’t “humiliated” simply by being in porn. There is nothing wrong with a woman willingly engaging in any kind of sexual act in front of a camera, whether it’s plain ol missionary or an interracial CNC gangbang. Many women enjoy making porn and sharing it - just peruse FetLife and you can see tons of porn made completely for free, just for fun.

Like, really. Unless it’s a problem, it’s not a problem.

Gonna go out on a limb here and say the obvious: being unattractive.

This question is always fishing for the “weird” things, or for ways for everyone to pat themselves on the back for not being shallow and expressing their moral standpoints in their dating preferences.

But in this day and age, it is always worth it to return to the fundamentals and focus on the obvious. So what’s obvious?

• Don’t have a fucked up face.
• Don’t be grossly overweight or sickly thin.
• Show minimal signs of aging. If you are aging, age gracefully.
• Don’t neglect basic higiene and grooming.
• Don’t wear ratty or ill-fitting clothes.
• Don’t be sick.
• Don’t be angry or depressed.

So if anyone is actually trying to become more attractive - here is a good starting point. Accept the things you can’t change, and work on the things you can. And yeah, also treat waiters nicely.