• Lux (it/they)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    1391·
    17 days ago

    Homophobia

    I was raised in a right wing, rural area, and i didn’t meet a gay person til higschool. When he said he was gay, i assumed he was joking.

    Im trans now lol

    • Angry_Autist (he/him)@lemmy.world
      41·
      15 days ago

      Grew up semi-rural south and same thing but my parents took me to see The Birdhouse for some reason (I was 14) and I was like “OH!”

      Not gay myself, but thankfully I did not grow up to be the bigoted person my parents wanted me to be.

    • Ledericas@lemm.eeEnglish
      1·
      15 days ago

      it was semi-common in the early 2000s in cities, but not anymore after 2010.

  • dingus@lemmy.worldEnglish
    1281·
    17 days ago

    I remember one day realizing it was odd that my dad would hug my mom but my mom would never hug him back. She would just stand there and let him hug her. Yeah he was an abusive husband and I was very happy for her when she finally left him after over a decade!

  • themeatbridge@lemmy.world
    115·
    17 days ago

    Knee pain. Everyone told me it was normal growing pains, until one little league coach notice I run weird. Queue years of doctors and specialists and tests and scans and surgeries, and now I’m a 40 something guy with advanced arthritis that could have been much much worse if left untreated.

      • themeatbridge@lemmy.world
        12·
        16 days ago

        My parents took me to see doctors, who told them it was just growing pains and suggested I exercise more to lose weight. I saw three specialists and had a bunch of xrays before anyone noticed the shady spots on my cartilage. Osteochondritis Dissecans occurs in 15-30 people out of 100,000, and most of the primary care doctors I’ve had in my life had never heard of it.

        I can’t blame my parents for that. I can blame them for a lot of things, but they did their best.

  • superkret@feddit.org
    103·
    17 days ago

    Getting locked in the basement without water, or thrown out into the streets for half a day, when you misbehaved as a child.

  • jpreston2005@lemmy.world
    101·
    16 days ago

    I don’t know if this counts, but when I was little I’d go to friends houses, then later in high school to my first serious girlfriends house, and I remember their families were like… loving? I loved spending time at my girlfriends house especially, hanging out with her Mom and her Dad even if my gf wasn’t there. They were so nice, and you could tell had genuine affection for their children (and to some degree, me). I miss you Mr. and Mrs. Miller!

    • shalafi@lemmy.worldEnglish
      38·
      16 days ago

      That’s me. I had no idea other families were affectionate and said crazy stuff like, “I love you.” My god, they even hug.

      To this day I struggle with affection, even though I love it. If you touch me unexpectedly I’ll involuntarily flinch. I don’t mind, at all, but I still jerk and can’t help it.

    • 𝕱𝖎𝖗𝖊𝖜𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍@lemmy.world
      10·
      16 days ago

      Heh that was my experience too. But I grew up with a single parent who spent all his time working, so most people’s childhoods weren’t spent climbing 5 floors of scaffolding for fun

      Met my partner and was astounded by her loving family

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
    95·
    17 days ago

    Being unable to think of something without a prompt.

    I guess most people can just remember things without sticky notes and calendars.

    • catharso@discuss.tchncs.de
      23·
      17 days ago

      i have approximate knowledge of many things; accessing it without the right trigger may take a while though.

      i know i know something but i have accepted that my brain will often only grant me access days later in a completely unrelated situation 🤷🏼‍♂️

      • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
        13·
        17 days ago

        You ADHD? I was almost 40 before I learned about inattentive type ADHD. As far as I knew, ADHD was spastic kids that couldn’t sit still. Since I was more of the daydream and fall asleep type, I never would have thought I was part of that crowd.

    • GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca
      7·
      16 days ago

      This is me to a large degree. Give me a cue and a whole encyclopedia is at your fingertips. Just say think of something and I’m at a loss.

  • inlandempire@jlai.lu
    66·
    17 days ago

    Social democracy

    In general the political system you grow up in seems to becomes a normalcy in your mind when in reality there’s so many different ways of governing

  • Especially_the_lies@startrek.websiteEnglish
    59·
    17 days ago

    Apparently, it isn’t normal to just space out during a test. Yeah, I went through K-12, undergrad, and grad school with an undiagnosed learning disability. This was only one of the symptoms…

      • WindyRebel@lemmy.world
        2·
        16 days ago

        I’ve never been diagnosed with a learning disability and I would often space out sometimes during a test. The brain gets tired and needs a break/reset before going back to the task. Now, if it was constant or for long periods of time, maybe that’s different? I’m not a doctor and this person didn’t specify.

  • waz@lemmy.world
    571·
    16 days ago

    This was a really recent realization for me. I am one of the people who can voluntarily activate the tensor tympani muscles in my ears to create a low level rumbling sound. I recently tried explaining this to someone else and they still think I am making it up.

  • swelter_spark@reddthat.comEnglish
    55·
    16 days ago

    I grew up thinking it was normal for grown men to be attracted to little girls. My mother had a habit of pointing out random men who just happened to be around and telling me they were staring at me/thinking about how beautiful I was/in love with my/trying to look up my skirt. The way she talked about it made it seem like it was a common, acceptable thing.

  • dual_sport_dork 🐧🗡️@lemmy.worldEnglish
    53·
    15 days ago

    Reading.

    Or rather, how so many people seem fear and avoid it, or can’t do it. Something like 21% of adults in the US are illiterate, and the majority – 54% – read at or below a 6th grade level.

    I’ve been a sight reader probably since I was about six years old. I absolutely cannot look at any words legibly written in my native language and not understand them. You couldn’t force me to look at words written in English and not digest them if you held a gun to my head. I fear no wall of text, no matter how tall it is.

    It takes some effort to wrap your head around the notion that not only can most people not do this, but statistically speaking most or at least a plurality of people have to struggle or exert conscious effort to read and many of them are loathe to do so. And roughly one in five people simply can’t. This did not sink in for me when I was younger.

    I can’t imagine having to live my life that way. You nerds have seen how much bullshit I write in a day; I’d go absolutely bats.

  • Dagwood222@lemm.ee
    53·
    17 days ago

    Reading.

    When I got to high school I started taking book out from the library there. Over three years I took out about a dozen books that had never been read; they’d just been sitting on the shelves for years.

    • Angry_Autist (he/him)@lemmy.world
      51·
      15 days ago

      When I was a kid I noticed most books hadn’t been checked out by more than 2 or 3 people. At one branch they’d just stamp the back inner cover of the paperback, no checkout slip and I asked “What happens when you run out of space to stamp?” and she just laughed sadly

  • Hossenfeffer@feddit.ukEnglish
    52·
    16 days ago

    Mine are all pretty mild.

    Everyone reading all the time at home. Pretty much every room had bookcases, full to bursting with books. When I was old enough to have friends around they all said how weird it was to have so many books.

    My parents were really emotionally distant. I don’t recall either of them telling them they loved me - or each other for that matter. No hugs or kisses. More than one of my girlfriends called me an emotional cripple.

    Home-cooked food every night. We never ate out, never had takeaway. My mum was a great cook though so although my friends seemed to think it was weird I’d never had a MacDonalds when I finally did try it I didn’t understand the hype.

    Oh, and the poop knife, of course.

    • Pirata@lemm.ee
      291·
      17 days ago

      On this same note, as an European it was insane for me to learn that school shootings like Sandy Hook, those are just the ones that go famous for some reason.

      But in reality hundreds more happen throughout the year that don’t go “viral” so they don’t get reported at all.

      Truly mind-boggling.

      • shalafi@lemmy.worldEnglish
        141·
        16 days ago

        Not true. If a single child is shot, or even shot at, it’s national headline news. Caveat: That doesn’t apply to inner-city children shooting each other. We, uh, don’t talk about that.

        If you look at some stats a “school shooting” is any time a gun goes off on school property. I could go down to the elementary school and pop one off at midnight. School shooting.

        “Mass shootings” go this way as well. We all have an event in mind when that term comes up. There’s quite a gap when you look at lies, damned lies and statistics. :) You might note that Mother Jones and The Violence Project are anything by conservative sources.

        • ouRKaoS@lemmy.today
          5·
          16 days ago

          Four victims is what it takes for a shooting to be considered a “mass shooting”.

          This is a ridiculous number, because it seems too low & too high at the same time.

      • BenjiRenji@feddit.org
        3·
        17 days ago

        We had to do active shooter training when I started my job at an US companyin Europe. That was weird.