Allowing your mother to put all of her fears into you? Good girl, here’s your reward: (nothing)
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you.But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats.Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself.
This Be The Verse - Philip Larkin
reward: (ulcer)
Your reward is to be constantly asked: “Why don’t you smile more?”
god tier comic
Oof. That’s a rough one
reminds me of how my dad would go “quit flapping” whenever I stimmed. it’s taken me a while to feel comfortable with flapping my hands again.
My cousin (3) does this and my grandma just hits him. We all give her crap but she won’t listen. She not educated (like can’t read) and thinks she’s helping. Is there a way to help her by guiding her to a more productive path of interacting with him?
Have you tried hitting her?
Multiple times as a teen but she’s as stubborn as she is uneducated. She actually uses to beat me with pans in response. All she did was strengthen my resolve but my cousin is clearly not a “normal” child so hitting him seems more pointless. It doesn’t even seem to bother him. The way Lil dude ignores her is actually impressive. Normal kid would cry or get angry (like me) but He has less than 0 f to give.
Which is why I’m more focused on getting her Proper ways to interact with him or reason with her.
Thank fuck my stim is “go to a place with no one else, pace back and forth, and talk to myself” and my parents defended me doing it against my sibling’s objections. Because literally no one was harmed by me doing it.
I wish my dad were this cool
I used to get the shit smacked out of me for it, then I started chewing on my knuckles and now I’m 38 with scarred, calloused, ugly hands and I destroy every long sleeve shirt or jacket I own in a matter of months.
We we’re born in the wrong century my friend.In the 16th century simple disease killed you. The oppressers would carve out your eyeballs and chain your feet to the slaves behind you.
In the 24th century, robots have dominated man for centuries, and improve upon their own designs by leaps and bounds. And linux is up to 7% user rate in desktops.
Indeed the year of linux.
…stimmed? Flapping?
What are these words? I’m afraid to ask in the event it’s some new sex thing…that your dad was watching…ew ew ew ew ew.
I’m going to pretend you’re asking in good faith and would genuinely like to learn.
“Stimming” is “sensory stimulation,” or self-regulating behavior. When used in this context it’s not sexual. It helps (typically neurodivergent, but I’d argue most) people better process the environment around them by having a sensory input they can focus on.
Examples of stimming are hand-flapping (waving one’s hands around), clicking a pen, listening to music, tapping one’s toes, chewing gum, just to name a few. I’m willing to bet you have stims that you may not even realize, and that’s perfectly okay.
TL;DR: Stimming = fidgeting that helps you focus/calm down, it’s not perverted.
typically neurodivergent, but I’d argue most
Yup. I’m (mostly) neurotypical, and used to unconsciously reach for a pen whenever I need to focus on reading code, or have important conversations. I don’t click it, just need something to hold (and very occasionally bite on).
Now I consciously carry a “focus pen”.
I’m sure Freud has something to say about the whole thing…
It’s a mom thing I guess.
control + t. Type word. Enter.
In the future, if you’re that worried about something giving you certain results, dictionary.com exists, and shouldn’t give you anything but words. I, also, love urban dictionary, because its funny, but you don’t always get a clear answer, due to the crowdsourcing. This way you don’t look weird for assuming something
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