That’s why I gave you the pass on a one night stand, but if you think a healthy 7 year relationship can develop from sex alone, you’ve got a lot to learn about relationships.
As a counterpoint, I’ve been with my partner for 15 years, and we started as a one-night-stand. It’s backwards from how it usually happens, but he was particularly cool so I took him to breakfast the next morning, and then we got to know each other better. We became FWB, broke it off, dated other people, then got back together for real and haven’t quit since.
Yes, sex can’t be the only reason for love, but you can start there and find mutual interest after.
Fair enough, but was one of you 30 years older than the other? I’m not saying there aren’t healthy relationships with circumstances that might otherwise be a red flag.
Hell, when I first hooked up with my current wife, I was her direct supervisor at work. Big red flag there! We ended up breaking it off for the obvious complications, but ran into each other ten years later, tried again under new conditions, and are now happily married with quite the extended family.
But the combination of a teenager/early 20s and a middle aged person in a situation like those, is more than likely to be a dysfunctional unbalanced relationship.
Yeah, I mean, a relationship is based on liking and respecting each other - an interest and respect which can develop out of time spent interacting based on physical attraction. Beyond that, a relationship can take any form that the involved parties choose.
When a repeat victim of domestic violence refuses to press charges against their partner, and continues to take them back, as is commonly seen in this scenario, do YOU personally think that is their “choice” (as in: they truly desire to remain in this situation forever) or that they would choose otherwise, but due to emotional trauma and manipulation, they are psychologically unable to get away?
That’s why I gave you the pass on a one night stand, but if you think a healthy 7 year relationship can develop from sex alone, you’ve got a lot to learn about relationships.
As a counterpoint, I’ve been with my partner for 15 years, and we started as a one-night-stand. It’s backwards from how it usually happens, but he was particularly cool so I took him to breakfast the next morning, and then we got to know each other better. We became FWB, broke it off, dated other people, then got back together for real and haven’t quit since.
Yes, sex can’t be the only reason for love, but you can start there and find mutual interest after.
Fair enough, but was one of you 30 years older than the other? I’m not saying there aren’t healthy relationships with circumstances that might otherwise be a red flag.
Hell, when I first hooked up with my current wife, I was her direct supervisor at work. Big red flag there! We ended up breaking it off for the obvious complications, but ran into each other ten years later, tried again under new conditions, and are now happily married with quite the extended family.
But the combination of a teenager/early 20s and a middle aged person in a situation like those, is more than likely to be a dysfunctional unbalanced relationship.
Yeah, I mean, a relationship is based on liking and respecting each other - an interest and respect which can develop out of time spent interacting based on physical attraction. Beyond that, a relationship can take any form that the involved parties choose.
When a repeat victim of domestic violence refuses to press charges against their partner, and continues to take them back, as is commonly seen in this scenario, do YOU personally think that is their “choice” (as in: they truly desire to remain in this situation forever) or that they would choose otherwise, but due to emotional trauma and manipulation, they are psychologically unable to get away?