Today I was contacted by someone at work. She graduated school with me and our 20 year reunion was coming up. Why did she contact me at work? It was the only way they were able to track me down. I was included in promotional material by name. She told me I "was the hardest to track down"and I had to smile.
This is just a small anecdote about privacy practices and their real life impact (and how your employer can undo all of it, I guess)
I had this argument with my boss and lost. They made all of us take photos that they posted on the company website. I said I’m working pretty hard on making myself invisible and don’t appreciate being forced to out myself like this. Tough shit. My name picture and contact info are out there for all to see.
They showed you how much they value you: less than a name and photo on their website. Sorry, bruv. I wish they had respected your wishes.
What the fuck? Where are you from? That would be illegal in germany. If you don’t want to be in the internet, they can’t just force you.
I think this would be illegal in California too
Username checks out
Can’t speak for other countries but in the US this is horse shit.
My 10y reunion is coming up, and im like 99% sure that nobody will be able to find me lol.
Im not in contact with anyone, and ive even changed my name and as far as i know none of them know the new one either :')deleted by creator
Have your parents and siblings changed their everything as well? That’s how I would try to find someone I went to school with.
I have a Google Alert set up, so I get notified in case my name pops up on the web. A month after I joined a new company, I got an alert - turned out that their internal directory page was exposed to the public web. I was pretty livid - all this time I was proud of maintaining good anonymity, looking up my name never returned anything meaningful on Google. So I complained to my boss about this, and he said it was actually a bug/misconfiguration - which they were already aware of, but didn’t bother fixing it because no one complained. I was super pissed and made it very clear that it was a violation of my privacy and I wanted it taken down ASAP. Thankfully my boss was understanding and got it fixed. Then I had to report the page to Google. It took a while, but it was finally gone from the search results.
To help with this in the future, you can also create several fake results sharing your real name. Stuff like a blogger with one post not in your writing style, etc… This will dilute searches with disinformation. Removal of real data is important, but you can also confuse anyone looking.
You could use an AI generated fake face and fake history too if your name is unique to make people think they either found the wrong person or make them unsure of the other listings mentioning you with only your name as an identifier
Calm down Dexter. We all know your secret!
In terms of online presence I think one has to be careful about becoming too private - at what point do you become so untrackable that even people you would like to find you (I.e. old friends) can’t anymore.
i really don’t want old friends or distant family finding me though
Agreed. If I am not in contact with you there is a reason.
Or more than one reason.
“And what about very old friends?”
I would fully like to erase my online presence. I dont want people seeking me out.
I have a website that shows up when someone searches my name on the internet and an email there. This way people are able to contact me and I don’t have to use any spyware like Facebook.
But whether that works for you depends on your threat model, I guess.
Is it just a bare bones websites that has only your email? Do you host it?
Is it just a bare bones website
No, it’s more work-oriented/portfolio type of site and it’s hosted on Cloudflare Pages under my domain.
But in this case, bare bones website would be sufficient
I guess you can ask her how she managed to track you… later on do the necessary adjustments.
Anyone can be found, the only question is how much effort people are willing to put into finding them.
Can you help find Jan Marsalek?
He has been found in Russia living with a fake identity of an orthodox priest, likely facilitated by the FSB.
I found him, hes in Ligma
What’s / Where’s “Ligma”?
It’s the place right next to sugoma
What about Elvis Presley? I heard he went home.
As the Eric Cartman of my school. I will not have this problem.
I don’t understand. Are you saying you’re a racist, abusive, narcissistic fuckhead? Or that you’re fat?
*was
Um, which one?
Um, why does it matter? He matured and changed. It’s a positive attribute, not a negative one.
It doesn’t. Was an attempt at a witty retort.
I see. Textual communication has a pesky habit of not conveying tone unless you intentionally craft it to. It bugs me that there are so many people who negatively judge someone for decades-old attitudes and worldviews, when positive change should be commended.
Not you, since your comment was in jest, but I question the motives of those think that way unironically.
All good.
I was a mix of Kenny and Scott Malkinson
You died every week (from diabetes)?
At least she didn’t hire a private investigator.
A human hunting for you can be pretty effective.
Worlds most dangerous game
What a strange book
Indeed, The author was a bit of a nut
Jai alai?
Scary to think what will happen when AI can automate that.
It seems better than having the FBI track you down (not that they need too as they track all of us all the time)
I’ve been told by classmates that I am on the “unable to track down” list for my school.
That you have kept in touch means the school didn’t try hard… 😂
Luckily I hated everyone in highschool and they never bothered me again once I left. If this has happened to me I’d have laughed in their face.
Well, at least you were wanted.
I’m pretty sure they called my cell all week during work hours. Place had horrible reception so if the call came through at all, i couldnt answer cause well, im at work.
But nobody ever left a message so shrug
Sucks they were able to find you this way. That’s why I always use a pseudonym.
Yeah ok James
:O
It may not always be good to be invisible. You could make a website for yourself sich that people can find you and contact you. You can tgen decide if you want to write back. E.g a mastodon account would be enough. You don’t gave to blog with that acc.
Personally, I think being impervious to damage is a great thing 😂
Shit 😂
I would be pissed and just say “that was on purpose, fuck you”.
Or you could not be a dick
Hunting down someone and calling them at their place of work is the dick here. Thats crazy. Leave people alone if they are hard to find. Someones privacy isnt someone elses sherlock holmes moment.
OPs invader sounds like someone who peaked in HS and cant let it go.
Someone is putting a lot of work into including/inviting you.
Yea my first respond would also totally be: “Fuck that person in particular” /s
